No one should worry about getting older. It’s something I used to worry about, but not anymore.
When I was twenty, I was a lonely girl. I had a good family, but no friends. I could not keep up with people my own age, and I was not a pretty girl. I was, what people would describe as, “plain”. I could not grow my hair, as it was affected by all my medication. I used to have it permed, so that it looked like there was more of it than there was, but because it was so thin, if I tried to grow it, it looked like rat’s tails.
All of the handsome boys who worked in the same place as me, used to make a bee-line for the pretty girls, with lustrous long locks. They ignored me and I used to feel so upset. When I occasionally, did have a date, they would take me out once, and then not ask me again. They would never give me an explanation. I think that, maybe, they had taken me out for a bet.
But there is someone for everyone, and as it is nearly Valentine’s Day, I want to say that, even though I never thought I would meet someone, I did! I have a wonderful husband and we have a fantastic son, who is a credit to both of us.
I met Alan when I joined a Singles Club in Altrincham. In the old days, if you wanted to meet someone, you had to go out and meet them. You did not join dating websites or facebook, you joined Singles Clubs. This particular club, met in a pub called the Moss Trooper, and it was there, that I met Alan. He had been very lonely too. He had lost both his parents and lived alone. We needed each other, and soon realized that we were each other’s soulmate. We were married in 1981.
Another reason to not fear getting older, is that you never know what is around the corner. This time last year I was doing nothing except staying in the house, but I began to go out and I joined a craft group, then a creative writing group, and from the creative writing group, I had an opportunity to join a Storyteller’s club. I mentioned this in a previous post. I began to perform, which is something I have always loved to do.
Last month I won the heat. I was ‘Storyteller of the Month’ and I won an engraved keyring. I will be headlining at the next Storyteller’s meeting, next Monday Night. I have a story to tell, and will sing a Mika song, called ‘Hurts’, which fits in well with the Love and Hate theme.
As well as all of these new things which I am enjoying in my later life, I have also made some wonderful friends. I have a confidence which I never had before, and I feel that my life is definitely worth living.
So no matter how old we are, we can still have wonderful surprises and we can still enjoy great new experiences.
And for anyone who is alone, this Valentine’s Day. There is someone for everyone, so don’t despair. Love to everyone, from Mari